Humility in Conflict: The Pathway to Restoration

Humility in Conflict: The Pathway to Restoration


1 Peter 5:6 (NIV)

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time.

Conflict is an inevitable part of human interaction. It’s not a question of if we will face disagreements in our relationships, but rather when. However, it’s essential to remember that the way we handle conflict can significantly impact others’ perception of Christ. Our actions can either draw people closer to Him or unintentionally tarnish their image of Him.

Humility plays a crucial role in the process of addressing conflict. Whether we are the ones who have caused hurt or the ones who have been hurt, the path to reconciliation should always involve humility. We must acknowledge that the ultimate vindicator is God Himself. If we seek exoneration, we should allow Him to perform that task rather than striving to vindicate ourselves.

This doesn’t mean suppressing our feelings. On the contrary, we should present our hurts honestly before God, pouring out our hearts to Him and asking for the courage to communicate truth in love. We are invited to cast our anxieties on Him, secure in the knowledge that He will sustain us.

The next step is repentance. We must take ownership of our part in the conflict. It’s essential to ask ourselves: What role have I played in this situation? Have I been the kind of friend that I would like to have? Rather than being a harsh rebuke, conviction is God’s gentle invitation to a higher way of living.

In obedience to this call, we must confront those we disagree with, not to win an argument, but with the aim of restoring the relationship. This process is not easy and often goes against our natural instincts. However, it aligns with God’s standards and leads us toward a life marked by abundance and healing.

Humility in conflict means acknowledging our own fallibility and our need for God’s guidance. It means approaching conflict with a heart that seeks restoration rather than victory. By practicing humility in our relationships, we reflect the character of Christ and draw others closer to Him.


Have you ever experienced the transformative power of humility in a relationship? How did it impact the outcome and the way you and the other person perceived each other?

Consider a conflict you may be currently facing. How can you apply the principles of humility, confession, and reconciliation to address and resolve it?